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Is Your Partner A Narcissist?
Are you in an abusive relationship?
Narcissists are usually portrayed very negatively on the one hand because people who fall into this trap of a relationship with a narcissist end up suffering very, very much.
But the truth is that narcissists have developed this mechanism to function in their social relationships due to traumas and profound wounds in their childhood. They may have suffered abandonment, parental neglect, or other forms of emotional deprivation.
In adulthood, narcissists attract into their lives people who have suffered as much but who have developed different mechanisms of interaction. These are codependents. Unconsciously thirsty for love and understanding, they will go right where love is untraceable, that is, in the arms of narcissists.
The Narcissist-Codependent relationship is one of the most harmful. It is based on a lot of suffering accumulated over time, which both then perpetuate as the only manifestation of their reality.
The inner desire for healing attracts them, but they end up causing each other even more suffering.
Most psychologists advise co-addicts to give up hope that they can change a narcissist, as they are generally very resistant to self-assessment.
